Anger Management Counseling

Dr. Robert Fraum, Ph.D

Robert M. Fraum is an anger management therapist, clinical psychologist, and marriage counselor. He focuses on constructive and tangible solutions for individuals and couples. Dr. Fraum employs cognitive-behavioral therapy, psychodynamic, and interpersonal anger control techniques. Anger management counseling is available in New York City, White Plains, NY, and Greenwich, CT.

Welcome to Anger Management, NYC and Westchester

The purpose of the Anger Management, NYC and Westchester website is to inform you, in plain, candid language, about the psychological treatment of anger issues. My main objective is to be helpful to people dealing with anger problems. The anger management facts, insights and perspectives are also intended to be of general interest as mental health and abnormal psychology topics.

I am concerned with the degree of stress and frustration that I notice every day in the NYC metro area. My colleagues who are psychologists, marriage counselors, and psychiatrists have also noticed that job security concerns, financial stress, and work-life balance pressures have reached unhealthy levels. Problems with anger management in the workplace seem to be getting worse in the past decade.

Locally, people in New York City, Westchester, and Connecticut are dealing with fear of unemployment or anger over job loss. Further, feelings of insecurity, a sense of helplessness, and loss of self worth can lead to couple or marital conflict, verbal abuse, domestic violence, and divorce. Such fears and stressors can also lead to depression, anxiety attacks, sleep disorders, and other mental health concerns. They can contribute to anger management issues that impact intimate, family and professional relationships.

It is much harder to deal with reality problems and stressful situations when we are in the grip of negative emotions like anger and fear. Fortunately, this no longer has to be the case. We can free ourselves from excessive anxiety, unhealthy anger, and unwanted aggressive behavior. We have been learning a great deal more the psychology of fear and anger. Its practical application is called anger management by the general public. Anger management is a variety of therapeutic, counseling, and training techniques to manage, reduce and prevent harmful anger.

Learning how to deal with anger

Learning how to protect ourselves appropriately, physically, emotionally, and socially is an important challenge in life. We acquire anger control skills in the course of growing up... We learn how to deal with anger through interacting with others. Most of us learn how to control our anger reasonably well. Some of us remain especially fearful, timid, or conflict avoidant. Other people react to emotional upset with anger and aggression. Still others seem to be controlled by spontaneous rage reactions.

We need to understand a problem with anger in order to fix it. The first step is to acknowledge the reality of anger problems when they exist. The second step is to carefully define them. Finally, we need to consider a self-directed plan of action and/or professional anger management counseling.

So, it is worthwhile putting the psychology and management of anger and aggression in perspective. I hope that you find this subject as meaningful and interesting as I do!

Anger management psychology, treatment, techniques, and tips

Here is a preview of some anger management psychology and treatment issues that we will be discussing.

The "Signs and Patterns of Dysfunctional Anger" web page can help you with identifying and defining anger problems. First, socially acceptable or functional anger is discussed. Next, dysfunctional anger and aggression are explained in a variety of ways. These include maladaptive patterns of anger and a section on psychiatric syndromes with anger symptoms.

This information may help you to decide to consult a mental health professional for an anger management evaluation.

The "Psychology of Anger" web page is intended give you a deeper understanding of what causes anger. We explore the psychopathology of angry behavior and aggressive reactions. We identify key psychological factors in anger management problems. We talk about psychological processes involved in developing an anger disorder.

The next web page is about anger control techniques and training for individuals. It begins with the question, "Is there a best anger management counseling or therapy method?" We review the most effective methods for treating individuals. These include CBT techniques for anger.

We also discuss my solutions-oriented anger management approach, Emotional Self Regulation (ER) and anger control training.

Finally, there is a discussion of how to select anger management counselors.

Anger in close relationships can create special problems. A couple's escalating or retaliatory anger can destroy or degrade the quality of their relationship. I believe in limit setting on anger in couple and family sessions.

Couple and marital counselors need to employ specific therapy strategies for the management of anger. For example, I discuss the therapeutic goal of healing anger's wounds.

I find the most effective anger control technique for couples is prevention. Anger is like a forest fire. It's easier to prevent anger than to stop it once it gets going. It is also easier to prevent the emotional damage from anger than to repair it.

I employ a variety of anger prevention strategies and anger reduction techniques in marriage and couple counseling. These include coaching for relationship skills and communication skills counseling. I also provide couples and marital conflict management counseling to limit arguing and prevent needless fighting.

We conclude with pointers on how to find and choose a good couple therapist or marriage counselor for anger issues.

Are you having some difficulties with anger? They do not necessarily constitute an anger management problem. An anger concern may be temporary or situational. Furthermore, an anger issue does not necessarily require help from an anger control psychologist, marriage counselor, or specialist. Often, a self-directed approach to managing your anger is what you need.

So I have included a section of anger management suggestions, exercises, and activities. This includes a list of my ten top anger management tips.

Sometimes our best efforts at addressing anger problems can take us only so far. We may need to find an experienced anger management specialist and get specific treatment. I practice solution oriented anger management therapy. It draws upon psychological and cognitive methods that provide tangible outcomes.

My anger management offices are located in Manhattan and Westchester, NY

You can find additional information about mental health, clinical psychology, counseling, and coaching topics at You can also get tips on how to select the best marriage counseling, couple and family therapy, and psychotherapy for your particular needs.

I find the practice of anger management to be very engaging. I hope that you will read on to learn more about the psychology and treatment or anger problems. I may have provided a great deal more information than you might want to read. So, if you would like to discuss questions or issues with me directly, you are very welcome to call.

71 Park Avenue

Suite 1D

New York, NY 10016

(212) 213-6593

2 Benedict Place

1st Floor

Greenwich, CT 06830

(914) 980-6961

499 North Broadway

Professional Suites

White Plains, NY 10603

(914) 980-6961

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